Supporting Domestic Violence Survivors:
In the aftermath of domestic violence, survivors often grapple with feelings of powerlessness, fear, and a diminished sense of self-worth.
As a survivor of domestic violence myself, I know only too well the complexity of the journey of healing that lies ahead for those seeking to reclaim their lives. I promised myself one day I would turn the experiences I went through into something that enabled others to heal, especially women who thought they had moved on but find themselves stuck (sometimes even years after rebuilding their lives).
The path from surviving to thriving has many challenges. Coaching, particularly from someone who has navigated these tumultuous waters, can play a pivotal role in supporting survivors through their transformative process. We often have great friends or family members who we know can support us, but it can be difficult to talk to people who are so close to us in a way that allows us to unravel the journey we have been on.
The Power of Shared Experience
My journey of recovery started almost 20 years ago, it taught me the importance of feeling seen and understood. Survivors of domestic violence often feel isolated and shamed by their experiences, believing that no one could possibly understand the depths of their pain. As someone who has walked this path, I bring not just professional training but a deep, personal understanding of the trauma and its aftermath. This shared experience creates a powerful connection between coach and client, creating a non judgemental, safe space for healing and growth.
Rebuilding Self-Worth and Trust
The erosion of self-esteem and trust is a common scar left by domestic violence. I remember the painstaking process of learning to value myself again and to trust not just those around me but my own judgment which seemed the hardest of all things to rebuild. Coaching, affirmative practices and trust-rebuilding strategies really helped me in my own journey.
Regaining Control Through Goal Setting
One of the most disempowering aspects of domestic violence is the loss of control over one's life decisions. In my own recovery, reclaiming this control is a big deal but it must be done in a healthy way. I work with survivors to set small, achievable goals, empowering them to regain a sense of agency. Together, we break down larger aspirations into manageable steps, using goal setting as a tool to restore independence and self-efficacy.
Healing is not a solitary journey. Just as community and support networks were instrumental in my recovery, I encourage survivors to connect with supportive resources. I can help facilitate introductions to support groups, encouraging the building of a supportive community network and I understand the power of collective healing and support.
I have a waiting list for one to one clients at the moment but if you would like to work with me please contact me and I will be able to confirm when I expect to have availability for you.
