Maybe the Baby Was Never Broken…
In my integrative therapy practice, I often meet people who carry early experiences of being misunderstood. Some were told they were “colicky” babies. Others were seen as difficult, dramatic, or too sensitive. But what if the baby wasn’t broken? What if they were simply overwhelmed?
Abuse Isn’t Seasonal
If you’ve ever lived in fear of someone, you’ll know Christmas isn’t always the cheerful picture we’re sold. For people in abusive relationships, the holidays are a nightmare in disguise.
Grieving What Could Have Been
Estrangement doesn’t just mean grieving the relationship you’ve lost; it often involves mourning the relationship you wish you’d had.
Maybe Christmas has always been fraught with tension, or perhaps this year is the first time things are different. Either way, it’s okay to feel the weight of what’s missing.
When Family Feels Hard at Christmas
The holidays can be beautiful—twinkling lights, cosy evenings, maybe even a moment of peace. But let’s be real: this time can also bring up a lot of old hurt.
Family gatherings can stir up those roles we never chose—peacemaker, scapegoat, the one who’s “too sensitive” or “always overreacts.” Sound familiar?
If you’re feeling the weight of it all, here’s a gentle truth: you don’t have to stick to the old script.
The Hidden Wounds We Carry
Many of us carry invisible wounds - hurts born not just from what was done to us but also from what wasn’t.
The love we didn’t receive, the validation we didn’t get, the safe spaces we didn’t have to just be.
These wounds, often buried deep, can shape how we see ourselves and the world around us.
But here’s the thing: these wounds aren’t the end of the story. They’re just a chapter, and we have the power to write a different ending.
Reclaiming the Rhythms of Womanhood in a World That Doesn’t Fit
Women are living lives that ask too much, too often, in ways we were never meant to sustain.
We are mothers, business owners, partners, friends, daughters, sisters, caregivers, earners, and so much more… We’re expected to carry these roles seamlessly, to do it all and do it well, without cracking under the weight.
And while we may rise to meet these expectations, the cost is enormous—because the lives we’re living are fundamentally out of alignment with who we are meant to be.
True Self-Care Is More Than A Face Mask
Brianna Wiest’s essay, This Is What Self-Care Really Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths and Chocolate Cake, resonates deeply with me, both as a therapist and as a person. Her words cut through the noise of curated wellness trends and strike at the heart of what self-care truly is: the work no one sees, the choices no one applauds, and the transformations that happen quietly, over time.
